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OanaRusu spune:

Mamici cu 2 pitici...
Paul asta al meu isi declara independenta... tot mai des nu reusesc sa-l culc la pranz, si pe la 6p.m. e varza de oboseala, seara nu mai papa (tot de oboseala) si doarme rau noaptea.
Am incercat cu de toate - cu lamurit, cu pedepsit, cu rational...nu merge pur si simplu, o zi bine 2 rau, nu se culca decat dc sta cu el cineva - adica eu sau tatal lui. Inteleg ca el vede ca pe Ana o culc eu mereu, da' ce sa-i fac, Ana suge inainte de somn si nu vreau sa-i scot suptul asta (inca...)
De pedepse m-am urat, cred ca nu-i mai pasa, ca si asa la desene se uita rar, dc ii zic "fara desene azi" nu-i prea pasa, pt ca iesim afara si gata - acuma, eu chiar ma bucur ca nu-i dependent de desene... iar alte pedepse... cand il pedepsesc la el in camera ori plnage fff rau (si oricum nu mai doarme) ori face ca azi, sta cuminte dar se joaca in patut in treaba lui.
Grozav de incapatanat, nu-mi doresc sa ajunga servil - da' uneori (mai ales dc nu ma simt grozav ca azi) parca ma scoate din minti ca nu-l pot lamuri.. mai nou ii zic ca o sa ramana mic pt ca nu doarme, in timp ce Ana creste mare-mare pt ca e cuminte si doarme - da' el vede ca e mai mare ca ea si pa, se duce pe apa sambetei ce zic eu...

Of, incerc sa nu ma mai consum da' chiar nu vreau sa renunte la somnul de amiazi - sper ca din toamna, dupa ce incepe caminul, sa-i intre in reflex - din nou - somnul de pranz. Si ieri asa frumos a adormit singur... doamne, si are o gestica si niste replici de om mare "nu pot sa dorm" si altele pe subiectul asta...

Tema de casa .. va pup, daca aveti ceva idei, sariti cu ele

Oana, mami de Ana Maria (intr-o zi de 13... 13 iunie 2008) si Paul-Victor (ziua cea mai lunga: 21 iunie 2006)
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julax spune:

Oana,ma recunosc si eu pe undeva in modul in care procedezi.Daca te consoleaza cu ceva,Alex adoarme doar cu cineva de la 2 ani,daca pana atunci adormea singur,de atunci n-a mai vrut si pace.Am incercat si noi cu vorba buna,cu pedepse,nik ca mers.N-am mai insistat,savurand momentele pana adoarme(palavrageste de multe ori)si gandindu-ma ca la un moment dat va dormi singur,ma gandesc peste cel mult un an(poate mai devreme).De fapt nu singur,ci cu Ioana.Pana atunci sta cu el cand mama,cand tata sau cine mai e prin zona.Cat despre replici de oameni mari,avem si noi.Azi a adormit cu bunicul la pranz si i-a spus ca lui nu-i este somn(si mai spune asa:nu imi este somn,de nu intelegi?"),se tot baga sub patura si se tara ghemuit,spunea ca este melc.
Dodo-pui,ma bucur ca vei fi activa si aici!
Pastile de slabit n-am luat ,nici nu am de gand,nu am o parere tocami buna despre ele,sunt cu doua taisuri,tot mai sfanta e miscarea si taiatul portiilor.
Va pup pe toate!Iulia,mamica de Ioana(24.09.2008)@ Alex(24.08.2006)
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ana_a spune:

neatza!

Oana, Stefan acasa nu mai doarme de mult la amiaza.....nu am ce sa-i fac, nu pot sa-l oblig. Vare este nasol ca este si prea cald sa iesim in curte. La el este alta chestie.....abia asteapta sa adoarma Matei ca sa stea cu mine In schimb cand merge la soacra....doarme SINGUR fara probleme.Isi porneste tv, se uita maxim la un serial dupa care stinge singur tv si se culca....de trage de el sa-l scoale....
Sfaturi nu am....ca eu am renuntat de mult sa-l mai pun la culcare, in schimb el dimineatza doarme pana pe la 9.30 asa ca nici pretentii mari nu pot avea de la el....

cu pastilele de slabit....si eu am fost reticenta, insa, daca le iei cu cap...este ok, zic eu. Cei care au murit au patit-o pentru ca nu au mancat nimic.... Sunt un soi de pastile - superslim - care iti taie complet pofta de mancare....si daca nu mananci.,...binenteles ca nu poti trai... Eu pe durata "tratamentului" am avut fff mare grija sa mananc, sa nu stric organizmul. In fond, slabim nu ne infometam. Eu le-am suportat bine, insa pe durata scurta, doar 2 saptamani.Aveam obligatoriu 3 mese pe zi, chiar daca nu imi era foame, fructe, legume proaspete, lactate...cam de toate.Exceptie cum am zis, dulciuri, paine si cartofi Altfel cred ca o luam razna cu 2 copii + infometare....

proud mummy

CamiM spune:

Oana si Sofia mai face mutrite cand e de mers la nani la pranz dar daca nu doarme seara e imposibil sa ne mai intelegem cu ea. Asa ca stau langa ea si nu o las sa faca nimic altceva si dupa o vreme adoarme( de mult ori cred ca de plictiseala saracuta), nu am ce ii face. Ii zic ca trebuie liniste ca doarme baby si ea face liniste cat de cat asa ca merge la noi asta. Mai citesc o poveste ceva si gata.

ma duc ca s-au luat la cearta pe o masinuta.. revin...

Cami - mami de Sofia Alexandra - mai 2006 si Sabina Adriana - mai 2008

rromanitza spune:

Neata!!!

Oana draga, nici noi nu prea avem probleme cu somnul la amiaza, dar daca e musai....cu placere! Cami are dreptate, nu doarme la pranz, adio intelegere cu el pana seara.....Si seara cade lat dar si doarme pana la 9-9.30 dimineata!!!
Fetelor noi vrem sa mergem in delta, cu totii...la inceput am fost foarte bucuroasa, acum am devenit reticenta si ma intreb cum m-oi descurca eu cu plozii mei acolo....nu ma gandesc la tantari, ci la unde vom sta la preparaea mancarii pt Luca, conditii in general....Nu stiu ce sa fac dar bb al meu nu vrea sa mananace mancare la borcanel...ca mai scapam....dar o refuza categoric....oare asa bine gatesc???? Eu tot voi incerca sa ii iau cate ceva, deocamdata el nu mamaca biscuiti si paine, ca asa a zis d-na dr., dar cred ca o sa inceapa acum ca altceva cu fructele nu ii pot da acolo....OFFFFFF!!!! M-a mancat in "trei litere" sa accept delta!!!!

La Multi Ani pentru Arianna, sa creasca mare sa fie sanatoasa si, Mada te mai asteptam pe la noi cu vesti proaspete, pozite de la petrecere si noutati!!!

ana_a spune:

Dana RELAX!!! Cat timp stati in Delta? Daca ai unde sa gatesti nu te mai stresa! Eu am fost la Colibita, la cabana, o saptamana!!! cu Matei si Stefan unde nu am avut curent, apa la robinet - decat in galeata, nu am avut frigider, si lapte am luat de la o vaca din vecini Am gatit zilnic cate putin, a mancat din mancarea noastra, si a fost OK. Noroc ca am avut aragaz si butelie ca altfel poate ma stresam si eu. Asa ca stai linistita, si bucurate de concediu in Delta!
Abia astept poze si impresii!!!Si noi vrem sa mergem, poate anul viitor.

proud mummy

gaia.nevia spune:

Hello, mamici cu doi pitici!

Ne primiti si pe noi in grup? Pentru ca am peTeo inscris la bondarei de 2007 si pe Radu la bobocei de 2008 incerc sa ma impart si sa scriu/caut informatii pentru fiecare la odiseea lui... de fapt relationarea intre ei devine acum topicul cel mai interesant... ceea ce cred ca discutati voi aici!

Gaia, mumã pentru voi:
Bebeloi si Bebedoi , poveste despre inceputuri

khrisu spune:

Fetelor eu am auzit niste chestii aiurea de tot despre pastilele si ceaiurile de slabit. Majoritatea provoaca diaree tocmai pt ca alimentele sa iasa nedigerate, adica sa nu se asimileze mai nimic. Actioneaza asupra sfincterelor de la nivelul stomacului (pilor parca se numeste ) provocand chiar cancerul acestuia. Sfatul meu este sa o lasati moarta cu ceaiurile astea, nu va riscati sanatatea pentru niste kilograme in plus.

Eu am comandat batoane din astea hipocalorice pe baza de cereale si cacao si mi-au dat astia un pliant in care dezvaluie metoda Nicoletei Luciu. Ea a slabit de la 90 de kg la 53. Sunt si fotografiile ei acolo. Cine doreste sa le vada sa intre pe site-ul Redis Nutritie. Fiecare isi poate calcula singurel caloriile pe care le manaca si cele pe care le consuma prin activitatile fizice iar daca diferenta da cu minus inseamna ca acea persoana slabeste. Simplu ca buna ziua. Nu e nici un secret la mijloc.

Referitor la dorinta copiilor de a dormi in pat cu parintii..sa stiti ca nu e rasfat sau alte minuni, pur si simplu asa sunt "setati" de la mama natura sa procedeze. Pentru cele interesate las un articol mai jos:
Kathy's Commentaries
Sleeping through the Night
by Katherine A. Dettwyler, Ph.D.

Department of Anthropology,
Texas A & M University
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[This essay was originally directed to one person. It has been edited slightly to make it less specific.]

I am an Adjunct (semi-retired) Associate Professor of Anthropology and Nutrition at Texas A&M University, and I do research on infant/child feeding beliefs/practices both cross-culturally and from an evolutionary perspective, as well as research on children's health and growth. I know from first-hand experience that being a new parent is a difficult time of adjustment, especially when expectations don't match reality, especially when our culture has taught us that children should have certain needs/wants/behaviors and then our children don't seem to fit that mold. This problem of a mismatch between expectations and reality can be very difficult for new parents to accept and adjust to. Sometimes, some children can be encouraged/convinced/forced to fit the mold of cultural expectations, and they do fine. Othertimes, though they do eventually fit the mold, it is at the expense of their sense of who they are, their self-confidence, their view of the world as a safe and trusting place, sometimes, even, at the expense of their health or life. Probably nowhere do cultural expectations and the reality of children's needs conflict more than in the two areas of breastfeeding frequency and sleeping behaviors.

Human children are designed (whether you believe by millions of years of evolution, or by God, it doesn't matter) -- to nurse *very* frequently, based on the composition of the milk of the species, the fact that all higher primates (Primates are the zoological Order to which humans belong, higher primates include monkeys and apes) keep their offspring in the mother's arms or on her back for several years, the size of the young child's stomach, the rapidity with which breast milk is digested, the need for an almost constant source of nutrients to grow that huge brain (in humans, especially), and so on. By very frequently, I mean 3-4 times per hour, for a few minutes each time. The way in which some young infants are fed in our culture -- trying to get them to shift to a 3-4 hour schedule, with feedings of 15-20 minutes at a time, goes against our basic physiology. But humans are very adaptable, and some mothers will be able to make sufficient milk with this very infrequent stimulation and draining of the breasts, and some children will be able to adapt to large meals spaced far apart. Unfortunately, some mothers don't make enough milk with this little nursing, and some babies can't adjust, and so are fussy, cry a lot, seem to want to nurse "before it is time" and fail to grow and thrive. Of course, usually the mother's body is blamed -- "You can't make enough milk" -- rather than the culturally-imposed expectation that feeding every 3-4 hours should be sufficient, and the mother begins supplementing with formula, which leads to a steady spiral downward to complete weaning from the breast. Human children are also designed to have breast milk be a part of their diet for a minimum of 2.5 years, with many indicators pointing to 6-7 years as the true physiological duration of breastfeeding -- regardless of what your cultural beliefs may be. I can provide you with references to my research on this topic if you wish to read more.

The same is true of sleeping. Human children are designed to be sleeping with their parents. The sense of touch is the most important sense to primates, along with sight. Young primates are carried on their mother's body and sleep with her for years after birth, often until well after weaning. The expected pattern is for mother and child to sleep together, and for child to be able to nurse whenever they want during the night. Normal, healthy, breastfed and co-sleeping children do not sleep "through the night" (say 7-9 hours at a stretch) until they are 3-4 years old, and no longer need night nursing. I repeat -- this is NORMAL and HEALTHY. Dr. James McKenna's research on co-sleeping clearly shows the dangers of solitary sleeping in young infants, who slip into abnormal patterns of very deep sleep from which it is very difficult for them to rouse themselves when they experience an episode of apnea (stop breathing). When co-sleeping, the mother is monitoring the baby's sleep and breathing patterns, even though she herself is asleep. When the baby has an episode of apnea, she rouses the baby by her movements and touch. This is thought to be the primary mechanism by which co-sleeping protects children from Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. In other words, many cases of SIDS in solitary sleeping children are thought to be due to them having learned to sleep for long stretches at a time at a very early age, so they find themselves in these deep troughs of sleep, then they may experience an episode of apnea, and no one is there to notice or rouse them from it, so they just never start breathing again. Co-sleeping also allows a mother to monitor the baby's temperature during the night, to be there if they spit up and start to choke, and just to provide the normal, safe environment that the baby/child has been designed to expect.

Is this convenient for parents? No!

Is this difficult for some new parents to adjust to? Yes!

No doubt about it, the gap between what our culture teaches us to expect of the sleep patterns of a young child (read them a story, tuck them in, turn out the light, and not see them again for 8 hours) and the reality of how children actually sleep if healthy and normal, yawns widely.

But the first steps to dealing with the fact that your young child doesn't sleep through the night, or doesn't want to sleep without you is to realize that:

* (1) Not sleeping through the night until they are 3 or 4 years of age is normal and healthy behavior for human infants.
* (2) Your children are not being difficult or mani****tive, they are being normal and healthy, and behaving in ways that are appropriate for our species.

Once you understand these simple truths, it becomes much easier to deal with parenting your child at night. Once you give up the idea that you must have 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep at night, and view these nighttime interactions with your child as precious and fleeting, you get used to them very quickly.

I highly recommend Dr. Sears' book on Nighttime Parenting [available from the La Leche League International Catalogue]. Our children's early years represent the most important and influential time of their lives. It passes all too quickly. But meeting your child's needs during these first few years will pay off in many ways in the years to come.

Prepared August 25, 1997.

articolul in original aici..e interesant site-ul

www.kathydettwyler.org/detsleepthrough.html" target="_blank">http://www.kathydettwyler.org/detsleepthrough.html

KHRISU mamik de baietel si fetita

khrisu spune:

OanaRusu spune:

of, khrisu, mii de pentru articol... Ana mea vaz' ca-i cea mai normala din cati bebei am vazut/atins vreodata...
Insa ma doare sufletul pentru Paul... cu el as vrea sa o iau iarasi de la inceput...
Problema e ca nu ne lasa la birou cu pruncii in brate - si zau c-as fi mai productiva dc mi-as stii pruncii pe aproape si, in loc de pauza de tigara, as fugi intr-o pauza de supt....(nu-s fumatoare...)

Oana, mami de Ana Maria (intr-o zi de 13... 13 iunie 2008) si Paul-Victor (ziua cea mai lunga: 21 iunie 2006)
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