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emaaimee spune:
paste fericit tuturor.
va mai pun niste linkuri utile chiar despre ce va intrbati de curand:
http://www.kellymom.com/bf/normal/frequent-nursing.html -alaptatul frecvent
http://www.kellymom.com/bf/supply/enoughmilk-older.html -cum sa va dati seama daca se satura bb cu laptele
-de ce bb vrea sa suga f des si de ce e f nervos:
http://www.kellymom.com/babyconcerns/fussy-evening.html
uite despre ce te intereseaza,Sheannamp:
http://www.kellymom.com/nutrition/solids/solids-how.html
tot de acolo ce mi s-a parut f imp:
Should solids replace breastmilk?
No. Solids during the first year are only meant to complement breastmilk, not take precedence over it or replace any breastfeedings. It is more of a way to add textures to the baby's diet, to allow the baby new experiences, and to help her develop hand/eye coordination through finger feeding.
Your baby should still be allowed to nurse on demand, as your milk should be her primary source of nutrition until closer to the end of the first year. Continuing to allow on-demand feedings also better ensures your milk supply.
de piticotu' uriash m-am facut maricica
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emaaimee spune:
Nursing to Sleep and Other Comfort Nursing
Am I creating a bad habit by allowing baby to nurse to sleep?
What about letting baby "cry it out?"
I've been told that baby will NEVER learn to go to sleep on his own if we don't teach him.
How will baby go to sleep when I'm not there to nurse him, or after he weans?
How can I gently encourage baby to fall asleep without nursing (and without crying)?
My baby sometimes nurses for comfort, when she's obviously not hungry.
Is this a problem?
My baby wants to comfort nurse the entire time he's napping!
How can I slip away without waking baby?
My toddler wants to comfort nurse forever when he's trying to fall asleep.
In conclusion...
Many moms feel guilty for nursing their baby to sleep. Nursing your baby to sleep is not a bad thing to do! It's very normal and developmentally appropriate for babies to nurse to sleep and to wake 1-3 times during the night for the first year or so. Some babies don't do this, but they are the exception, not the rule. Many children, if given the choice, prefer to nurse to sleep through the second year and beyond. Nursing is obviously designed to comfort baby and to help baby sleep, and I've never seen a convincing reason why mothers shouldn't use this wonderful "tool" that we've been given.
"You are not a pacifier; you are a Mom. You are the sun, the moon, the earth, you are liquid love, you are warmth, you are security, you are comfort in the very deepest aspect of the meaning of comfort.... but you are not a pacifier!" -- Paula Yount
Am I creating a bad habit by allowing baby to nurse to sleep?
Your baby's desire to nurse to sleep is very normal and not a bad habit you've fostered. Don't be afraid to nurse your baby to sleep or fear that you are perpetuating a bad habit. Baby often will seek the breast when sleepy or over-stimulated because it's a comforting and familiar place to him. To associate the breast with wanting to relax enough to go to sleep makes perfect sense. As adults, we also do things to relax ourselves so we can go to sleep: we read, watch TV, get something warm to drink or a snack, deep breathe, get all snug under the covers, etc. Nursing does the same thing for your baby.
For many babies at the height of exploration or distractibility, nighttime or naptime can often be the ONLY time the baby will nurse well. Allowing him to nurse at these times when he is more focused on nursing and less intent on other things helps ensures that he gets enough milk, that your supply is maintained, and that the nursing relationship goes on. Don't be afraid to nurse at these times or fear that you are perpetuating a bad habit. Instead, take advantage of these times for better nursing.
The sleep issue is not merely a matter of good versus bad habits. It is much more an issue of culture and lifestyle and expectations. Here are three approaches to parenting issues:
Forcing baby to change to fit the parent's lifestyle is one approach. Our American culture tends not to be very baby friendly, and rarely makes accommodations for nursing babies. The current trend, seen in many popular books and parenting magazines, is to force baby to do all of the accommodating so that we experience as little change in our pre-baby lifestyle as possible; for example, baby MUST sleep through the night so that we get unbroken sleep and a "good" baby is seen as one who makes as few demands on his parents as possible.
Another approach is to try to approximate the mothering style of traditional societies and let the parents do all the accommodating. This approach can be very difficult to pull off without lots of support and changes of expectations in the people around us.
A third approach is to do as much accommodating on the parental side as possible, and then to "ask" baby to accommodate the last part of the gap. This is an approach that can work for many families. With this approach, parents do all they can to be sensitive to their baby's needs, and only ask baby to accommodate when nothing else truly works.
What about letting baby "cry it out?"
There are two schools of thought about getting babies to sleep. One is a rather rigid method of "sleep training" where a baby is put down awake in a crib and left to cry himself to sleep so that he learns to "self-soothe" and doesn't develop sleep associations that require someone else to put him to sleep. This method has been around since the 1890's and was dreamed up by male university sleep laboratory researchers. Many of the popular "sleep training" methods of today are modified versions of this (allowing baby to cry for progressively longer periods without comforting him, instead of just leaving him to cry until he gives up and stops).
I can't, with good conscience, recommend the cry-it-out method for getting baby to sleep. Anyone who advises you to let your baby cry until he gives up and falls asleep is focusing on the baby's behavior (going to sleep by himself) and not on how the baby feels in the process. In my opinion, this "sleep training" often creates an unhealthy attitude about sleep: after going through this training, baby tends to view sleep as a fearful state to enter into and to remain in. Parents often need to "retrain" baby if there is any break in the usual routine. In addition, it can condition parents to ignore baby's cries, and break down the relationship of trust between parent and child.
Younger babies, in particular, do not have that sense of "object permanence" and if mom leaves them to cry, they are developmentally *unable* to realize that she is just in the next room. All baby knows is that he has been abandoned and that mom is not there. A young baby can only express his needs through crying. A baby who is left to cry alone will eventually stop crying because he has abandoned all hope that help will come: as far as he can tell, no one cares enough to listen, or come and provide comfort. In the book Our Babies, Ourselves: How Biology and Culture Shape the Way We Parent, anthropology professor Meredith Small writes, "When signals are missed, babies stop signalling; they withdraw; they suck their thumbs; they turn away; they try to right the system themselves by not sending out any more signals." The baby protects himself by shutting down, and "accepts" the situation because he has learned that a response is not forthcoming. Crying is also hard, physically, on baby: it can lead to hoarseness that can last for days; the digestive system is upset; heart rates can climb to levels over 200 beats per minute; and oxygen levels in the blood are diminished.
Another school of thought, which I subscribe to, discourages viewing sleep as a state you can *force* a baby into. Instead, it's best to create a sleep-inducing environment that allows sleep to overtake the baby. The process of breastfeeding itself regulates baby's temperature and heart rate and lowers his blood pressure, and puts him to sleep. This helps your baby develop a healthy attitude about sleep, where baby views sleep as a safe, comforting, natural state.
I've been told that baby will NEVER learn to go to sleep on his own if we don't teach him...
Never?! It is normal, natural and healthy for your baby to fall asleep nursing. Nursing babies fall asleep so quickly - how can anything so perfectly designed be worrisome? I've read a lot about babies' sleep patterns, and I've talked to many moms about this. Both my reading, my personal experience, and the experiences of other moms has convinced me that falling asleep without nursing is a developmental milestone that your baby will reach when he is ready. The first step often comes when your baby starts to nurse to sleep then stops nursing, rolls away and goes to sleep on his own. Or perhaps he will fall asleep in Daddy's arms when he's walking with him. These incidents may not happen very often at first, but they are the first step and *do* make you realize that it IS possible for baby to fall asleep by himself.
There are many babies who have been nursed to sleep and nursed during the night from birth who eventually learn to fall asleep on their own without the breast. You don't have to teach them to do this. They reach this as a milestone - when they're physically, developmentally, and emotionally ready to. You can try to speed this process along by putting baby to bed before he's asleep, but always nursing him to sleep will *not* keep him from learning this on his own. My daughter started to occasionally fall asleep on her own (or with her Dad) when she was around 11-12 months. Knowing that she *could* go to sleep without me right there really helped, even though she didn't do it too often. As time passes, she's fallen asleep without nursing more and more. We did not "teach" her to do this, or even particularly encourage it. It has simply been a natural developmental progression that came about as *she* was ready for it.
How will baby go to sleep when I'm not there to nurse him, or after he weans?
Many moms are worried about how baby will go to sleep when he enters daycare or weans, and feel that they must teach baby to sleep independently before this time. This is really not necessary, and can add lots of stress to something that is already a big transition for baby . Babies are *very* adaptable and will find new ways to go to sleep when mom is not there. Baby and his other caregiver(s) will work things out just fine, and they will find new ways to comfort baby that work great for both of them. The same will happen when baby weans.
How can I gently encourage baby to fall asleep without nursing (and without crying)?
Try transitioning from nursing baby totally to sleep, to nursing him almost asleep; then to just really relaxed, and then eventually to no nursing at all to go to sleep. The process may take a long time, or it may not. If you'll start out taking it as gradually as you possibly can, it will probably work better and you'll avoid possible problems and frustrations for both you and your baby.
You might start by lying down with him in the bed he will sleep in for naps, or on the floor, etc. - wherever he will be sleeping. Don't insist that he sleep in the crib if he doesn't want to. Your goal at this point it to get him comfortable enough and secure enough to go to sleep on his own. You don't want that made more difficult by any fears of being alone in his crib.
After he is okay with nursing to sleep in this way, you might try nursing him till he's almost asleep; eyes closed, heavy breathing but not completely out. Then transition to nursing just till he is relaxed and settled from all the activity prior to the nursing session. When he has done well with you leaving after only nursing this long, then you can try to transition him to going to sleep entirely on his own. You might offer him a favorite toy, book, etc. Give him a kiss and a hug and tell him "night night" in a way that is upbeat and positive. Try to have naptime and bedtime at the same time every day with a routine that he can begin to recognize and expect. For example, have naptime every day after lunchtime or have bedtime every night after snack or bathtime. That way he knows what to expect. You might even remind him that naptime or bedtime are coming and talk excitedly about it. For an older baby or toddler, ask him what he would like to take to bed with him; talk about the place he will sleep, how neat it is, etc. Allow him to have the light on if he wishes or the door open or whatever he wants in the bed with him - don't fight him on the little things.
Again, your goal is to get him to a comfortable enough place that he feels secure enough to go to sleep without nursing and by himself.
My baby sometimes nurses for comfort, when he's obviously not hungry.
Is this a problem?
Comfort nursing is normal. If baby were not comfort nursing he would need to be sucking on his hands or on a pacifier. The breast was the first pacifier and the one that all others are modeled after, so don't be afraid to allow baby to use it in this way. There are studies that show that comfort nursing is healthy for your child, too. All babies need to suck - some more than others. It ensures that they survive. If your baby seems to be comfort nursing *all the time* and this is more than you can handle, keep in mind that this will probably ease some as time goes by. In the meantime, you may find that carrying baby in a sling or a carrier on your body will lessen his need to comfort nurse so much. He may just need to be close to you at times and seeks out nursing as a way to do that.
Comfort nursing serves a purpose, too. Studies seem to indicate that this type of sucking overall decreases a baby's heart rate and lets him relax. It seems to have a very positive effect on his whole physical and emotional well-being. Don't be afraid to allow this type of nursing. Breastfeeding is more than just imparting fluids and nourishment. It's a way to nurture your child as well.
My baby wants to comfort nurse the entire time he's napping!
How can I slip away without waking baby?
It's really not unusual for babies to wish to nurse while napping. They do grow out of it eventually. There are a couple of things that you could try to help you to slip away.
Depending upon how big he is, you might let him continue to sleep latched on, but have him in a sling so you can get up and do things while he sleeps.
You can also work on slipping away after baby goes to sleep. Make sure baby is *deeply* asleep and no longer swallowing before you try this (you may have to wait a while). He'll then be doing what we sometimes call "flutter sucking" or comfort sucking, a really light suck. When a baby is in a light sleep, you'll see facial grimaces, partially clenched fists, muscle twitches, fluttering eyelids, and overall tense muscle tone. You can recognize deep sleep by an almost motionless face, regular breathing, still eyelids, and especially the limp-limb sign -- arms dangling weightlessly at baby's sides, hands open and muscles relaxed.
Once baby is in a deep sleep, try and slip away very slowly. One thing that sometimes helps is to slip a finger in baby's mouth near the nipple, then ease the nipple out so baby is just sucking your finger. Then you can ease your finger out of his mouth - it helps to put a little pressure on baby's bottom lip as you do this. By doing this, you can often keep baby from waking. Putting something right up next to him that has mom's scent (a t-shirt, pillow, or an animal he sleeps with) also helps.
My kids often seem to detect the loss of body contact and warmth when I get up. As I'm getting up, I keep my hand(s) on baby for a few moments, then *gradually* take them away so the transition isn't so sudden. Baby will usually stir when I get up, but often goes back to sleep if I keep my hands on him till he gets still again. It can also be helpful to put a hard pillow (preferably a warm one that you've been sleeping near) beside baby in the spot where you were sleeping so that he doesn't feel empty space if he reaches out in his sleep. If baby was resting his feet on me (common with mine), then I'll sometimes even put a pillow under his feet. With an older baby/toddler, I lay him down on top of my pillow if I'm trying to put him down on the bed when he's already asleep. (Keep in mind that it's not safe to use pillows with young babies due to SIDS risk.)
It's often easier to slip away during a nap when you're both lying down. If you're nursing sitting up, the position change may be waking him - you might try nursing him on a pillow in your lap so you can just transfer him to a bed or the floor without moving him around as much. If baby wakes when you put him in his crib, you might try moving him to a pallet on the floor or your bed, instead of his crib - he might nap better in a different place.
This article has additional tips for helping baby stay asleep: Let Sleeping Babies Lie - please...
My toddler wants to comfort nurse forever when he's trying to fall asleep.
Sometimes we start to question ourselves (again, perhaps) when we have a nursing toddler who wants to hang out at the breast for hours at bedtime, without ever quite falling asleep. Have you ever had one of those nights when you keep trying to slip away, thinking your toddler is asleep, to be interrupted by a sleepy protest every time you try to unlatch? The later at night it is, the more you can start to doubt yourself and wonder if "they" might have been right about that "bad habit."
Both of my kids have gone through stages of time (often teething or illness related) when they wanted to stay latched forever, but remember that these are usually just stages that come and go. If you are willing to let your toddler continue to nurse to sleep, rest assured that he will learn to fall asleep on his own, in his own time.
What if the comfort nursing is becoming uncomfortable for you, or if you just feel that you'd like to move away from it? If you're experiencing discomfort, pull your child closer in and check on latch and positioning - remember that even constant comfort nursing should not be uncomfortable if latch and positioning are as they should be (assuming you're not pregnant). If you feel the need to gently ease away from nursing to sleep, then go ahead and do so (see above for tips) - nursing is a two-way street and there is no reason not to have some basic age-appropriate "nursing rules" for toddlers. But don't feel that you need to change things just because someone wants to "guilt" you into it -- it's only a problem if it's adversely affecting your family.
In conclusion...
If nursing your baby to sleep and/or nursing baby for comfort is working for YOU and your family, that's all that really matters! Nursing is not only nourishing; it's also nurturing. Your breast is a wonderful place of comfort and security to your child, not just a feeding "trough". The time spent nursing your baby is a very short period in the total life of your child, but the memories of your love and availability will last him a lifetime. Trust that your baby will fall asleep on his own in time, and enjoy every sleepy moment while it lasts.
de piticotu' uriash m-am facut maricica
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matahut spune:
quote:
Originally posted by Sheannamp
Marina, e mult prea devreme ca sa renunti la suzeta!
Stai linistita ca nu se intampla nimic daca lusrul acesta se va intam pla peste 1 an -2! Suzetele actuale, cu forma aceea speciala, au un minim impact asupra dentitiei!
Ai mei nu cauta inca suzetele dar adorm mai usor cu ele iar cand se trezesc noaptea (in afara celor doua mese de supt) adorm inapoi mult mai usor cu ajutorul suzetei!
Da, mai, dar problema la noi e ca Maruca se trezeste la fiecare 45 de minute
Rar ii scapa o ora, o ora jumate de somn neintrerupt. Totusi, cred ca voi reintroduce suzi pe timpul noptii, fiindca pur si implu nu mai pot sa ma tot imbrac si dezbrac TOATA noaptea!!!! Of, nici urma de dintzisori, probabil ca trece ea printr-o perioada mai...nu stiu cum sa ii spun. Om vedea!Marina, mamica Anei (21.05.03) si a Marucai (29.09.06)
matahut spune:
quote:
Originally posted by Sheannamp
Mie teama ca nu le dau sa suga destul (mai nou, au doar 2 mese mai importante de lapte cand sug cam 8-10 minute si inca 1-2 "gustari" de cateva minute). Problema e ca nu prea mai merge cu pusul mai des la san, adica, daca ei nu vor sa suga in acel moment apoi nu o fac.
EU zic ca sug destul pentru varsta lor, doua mese principale si 2 gustarici (sunt cele de noapte sau in plus mai sug si noaptea?) sunt arhisuficiente, sigur isi iau cei 400-600 ml necesari.
Marina, mamica Anei (21.05.03) si a Marucai (29.09.06)
matahut spune:
Emaaimee, mutumim pentru linkuri, mi se par FOARTE FOARTE interesante!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Marina, mamica Anei (21.05.03) si a Marucai (29.09.06)
matahut spune:
Dupa o saptamana fara suzi, se pare ca a uitat-o. Noaptea trecuta am vrut sa i-o dau pt a o mai rari cu suptul, dar....nu a vrut-o. A luat-o, dar maraia in continuu cu ea in gurita. Nu se linistea decat cand simtea sanul...si apoi adormea dupa ce lua o "dusca" buna. Dar asta la 3 sferturi de ora, toata noaptea . Adevarul e ca ....nu credeam ca se poate asa ceva 
. Oare cat poate suporta un om sa doarma atat de fragmentat???? EU am deja in permanenta ochii rosii, parca am conjuctivita. Ma intreb ce ar fi fost daca nu as fi fost in CIC???? Cum m-as fi dus la serviciu dupa astfel de nopti???????????
Marina, mamica Anei (21.05.03) si a Marucai (29.09.06)
mamacangur spune:
Marina fetita noastra a avut o perioada...crunta cu cateva sapt. inainte de a-i iesi dintii.Adica au fost nopti in care nu stiu daca dormeam 15 min. intregi, fara pauze...Sugea de nu mai aveam piele pe mine dimineata, iar scutecul plesnea aproape...Desi a fost tare greu si inca e( are aproape 1 an)am supravietuit si ei i-a fost cat de cat mai bine asa.Suzi nu am folosit-o pt. ca n-am vrut de la inceput, asa ca am fost eu si suzi la nevoie si nu-mi pare rau.
Dar slava Domnului ca exista CIC !!! Altfel nici eu nu stiu ce ma faceam.
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mamica fericita!
Sheannamp spune:
Initial creeata de megbeng
am un bebe de 2 luni..si de 2 zile mi-a venit primul ciclu dupa ce am nascut..foarte redus cantitativ, dar e..de cand mi-a venit ciclul bebe nu prea mai vrea sa suga...urla rau cand ii bag sanul in gura, intoarce capul, suge f putin..se linisteste cand imi pun sutienul si ma indepartez un pic.
am citit in "capraru" ca la menstruatie laptele isi schimba gustul si e posibil ca bebe sa se comporte astfel, sa fie mai agitat..ieri a mancat f putin si sunt ingrijorata; abia azi dimineata a avut ceva mai mult spor...a mai patit cineva ceva similar?
matahut spune:
Megbeng, eu nu am avut probleme din astea, poate si pt ca mie mi-a venit ciclul abia la 8 luni de la nastere (asta la prima fetita). Acum inca nu mi-a venit si sper sa intarzie cat mai mult. Am citit si eu in Capraru si ma asteptam sa vad ceva schimbari, dar nu au fost. Probabil ca depinde de copil. Oricum e ceva trecator, cateva zile pe luna, asa ca nu te speria.
Mamacangur, nu pot spune ca ma bucur sa aud prin ce ai trecut, dar intr-un fel ma linisteste, fiindca nu sunt singura
. SI eu sper sa fie ceva trecator. Noaptea trecuta de ex i-au scapat 3 ore de somn neintrarupt, nu mi-a venit a crede, dupa aia a trecut la programul normal de 1 ora, dar oricum, e un progres. SI eu ma gandesc ca mai bine sa fim noi suzi, mai ales dupa ce am citit articolele date de Emamimee.
Marina, mamica Anei (21.05.03) si a Marucai (29.09.06)
TOMALAVINIA spune:
Dragi mamici, cu toate ca o alptez exclusiv pe Cristina, mi-a facut o viroza tare urita. A inceput in prima zi de Pasti cu tuse seaca, care s-a accentuat asa ca luni, am dus-o la urgenta. A ascultat-o cu stetoscopul, s-a uitat in gat si nu vea nici rosu in git, nici nu se auzea nimic la plamini. Dr m-a linistit si ne-a dat Ambroxol ptr tuse si sa o urmaresc. De mincat maninca bine, e vioaie, dar tuseste tot mai des. febra nu mi-a facut si sper ca nici nu va face, macar sa ramina infectia de tip viral, sa nu se suprainfecteze!
Voi, mamici care alaptati, ati mai trecut prin asa ceva?
Si colac peste pupaza si cea mare a inceput cu febra de dimineata, fara alt simptom.